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Excessive Use of Technology

What do I need to know about the excessive use of technology?

Developing likes, dislikes, hobbies and interests is an important part of growing up. You might have noticed that your son or daughter has become passionate about a particular sport, fervently follows one band or will only eat certain foods, for example. Similarly, they might love going on the internet, using their mobile, playing on their games console or listening to their MP3 player

For teenagers in particular, going online has become a vital social currency – logging on to Facebook or another social networking website when they get back from school is the equivalent of you rushing home to phone your friends when you were their age – and playing on the PSP, Wii or Xbox has now become part of the evening and weekend routine for many children.

Faced with an ever-growing range of devices, products, services and features, young people generally use technology in a positive and balanced way. But some parents will recognise that children and teenagers can spend many hours on the internet, their mobile and games consoles and you might be concerned that your kids are using technology excessively.

Just as you help your son or daughter to manage and moderate their behaviour and activities in the real world, you need to guide them on their journey through the digital world. If you’re not sure where to start, you could use built-in tools like Parental Controls to help manage their time and safety online.

Did you know?

A 2011 survey by Childwise found that UK children as a whole spend 36 million hours a day in front of the TV or computer.

In rare cases, children and teenagers can become obsessed with technology, particularly computer games.

In 2008, a leading US psychiatrist Dr Jerald Block, suggested that obsessive internet use, including excessive gaming, sexual preoccupations and emailing/texting, should be recognised as a clinical disorder.

Dr Block suggested that there are four common characteristics of obsessive internet use:

  • Excessive use – losing track of time or neglecting to eat or sleep
  • Withdrawal – eg feelings of anger, tension or depression
  • Tolerance – wanting a better computer or more hours online
  • Negative repercussions – eg arguments, lies, isolation and tiredness

Even if your child isn’t showing any of these characteristics, you might be worried that they’re spending too much time online and not focusing on other hobbies or school work. Or you might have concerns that their friendships are based only around social networking sites rather than the school playground.

“Whilst companies have to take some responsibility for preventing inappropriate use of online services and games…in the end, the responsibility has to sit with parents.” – Vicki Shotbolt, Parent Focus

It can be difficult to know when normal enthusiasm for digital devices has moved on to something more worrying. It’s therefore important to talk to your son or daughter about their digital world on a regular basis and to take some simple steps to help them balance their technology time with real-world activities.

What can I do if I’m worried my child is/could be using technology in an excessive way?

To help avoid excessive use of technology:

  • In the same way that you have family rules in the real world, set clear boundaries for your child when it comes to their use of the internet, mobiles and other devices – eg how long they’re allowed on the computer, what kind of websites they can visit, which games they’re allowed to play, how many calls/texts they can make on their mobile and how much they can spend on extras (eg on websites like Stardoll or premium rate ringtone downloads)
  • Set up Parental Controls and Safe Search based on their age and maturity to help protect them from accessing inappropriate or harmful content – but remember that they might not be 100% effective and aren’t a substitute for parental supervision
  • For younger children in particular, consider signing up for a monthly mobile contract so that you receive an itemised bill and can see who they’ve called and texted. Tell your child that you’ll be able to see this on the bill so that they don’t feel like you’re spying on them
  • Read our articles about downloading & copyright, gambling, games, mobile costs and search

If you’re concerned your child is becoming addicted to digital devices:

  • If you’re worried they’re online or playing games in their bedroom in the middle of the night, move the computer/console/TV into a family room. You might even want to put some rules in place about when and where they use their mobile as some children are known to text late at night from their beds
  • Don’t leave it until you’re concerned before you talk to them – keep the lines of communication open so that they know that you’re there for them

Where can I go for more information and support about the excessive use of technology?

  • You’ll find useful advice on the website of the Center for Internet Addiction Recovery (US)
  • If your son or daughter would like to speak to someone in confidence, they can contact Childline in the UK
  • Common Sense Media advises how you can help your family avoid media overload
  • In the UK, GamCare provides support for anyone suffering through a gambling problem
  • Mashable offers some useful advice about ‘social media parenting’
  • Get advice and talk to other parents on Mumsnet
  • Parentline’s 24/7 helpline offers guidance on a wide range of parenting issues
  • The Safer Internet Day 2011 website provides information about enjoying gaming safely

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